Posted to Diigo 01/13/2011

    • What makes you vulnerable also makes you beautiful
    • We are hardwired for connection, says Brown. Yet all too often, connection — in relationships, in classrooms, etc. — is missing
    • Fear is a big reason why we fail at making connections. We fear many things, but mostly we fear that if we put our true self “out there” for all to see we will expose our self-doubt and our private worries about whether or not we are really “good enough” or worthy of the connection
    • What we may fear most of all is allowing ourselves to be vulnerable, but without vulnerability there can be no true human-to-human connection
    • Where you hesitate and hold back, no connection can be created, and in a deeper sense, this hesitation to allow ourselves to be vulnerable is a source of much dissatisfaction and disharmony in our lives
    • Some of the things that “wholehearted” people have in common, Brown says, is (1) the courage to be imperfect, (2) the compassion to be kind to themselves, and (3) the ability to let go of the idea of who they are “suppose to be.”
    • The ability to allow ourselves to be imperfect and vulnerable in our personal and professional relationships is the very thing that can open our world up to the possibility of deeper connections and more meaningful engagement with others
    • will we jump on and embrace change and see where our passion will take us, or will we cling cautiously to the past and to that which is known and safe?
    • Passion dies in an environment of fear and a yearning for guarantees and certainty
    • “Follow your heart” sounds trite and cliche perhaps — but following your heart is exactly what you’ve got to do — this is where connection and meaning live
    • How do you want to change the world?
    • What’s your contribution?
    • The attachment to the fear and doubt keeps us from making our best contribution, or even from truly loving another or being loved